The Healing Helper

Cancer is a thief. It creeps in, much like the devil, intent on killing, stealing, and destroying. It can rob you of your spirit and dampen your will to live. It drains your joy, leaving you mentally exhausted, questioning your faith, and doubting everything you once held dear.

Cancer treatments aim to annihilate the bad cells, yet they often wreak havoc on the good ones, too. Sure, we hear warnings about side effects, but many don’t realize that some of the side effects can linger long after the treatment ends.

Throughout this journey, I’ve learned invaluable lessons:

1. Stay in the Word. Daily engagement with the Bible anchors me, reminding me of God’s promises. He never promised a life free of tribulations, but He assured me of His presence through them.
2. Stay Connected. Surround yourself with believers who uplift you. Having a tribe that prays for you, especially when you’re unable to pray for yourself, is essential.
3. Seek Therapy. As a therapist, I understand the importance of having a therapist myself. Sometimes, sharing fears with family can be daunting. The truth is, confronting the possibility of dying was terrifying. Thankfully, I found a safe space to unpack those feelings.
4. Have Those Hard Conversations. I feared not just dying but leaving my son an orphan. My initial hope was that my children would support each other. But that is no longer possible since Earl has passed away. This shifted my plan, prompting uncomfortable yet necessary discussions with my family.

Acceptance has been a journey, too. I’ve experienced significant weight loss, and I often find myself grappling with how I look in pictures. There are days when I seek reassurance to know if I appear “sick.” Yet, through this, I am learning to embrace the changes in my appearance. Each mark, every curve, tells a story of survival.

But God! I am overwhelmed with gratitude for His grace and mercy. My last CT scan revealed that the tumor has shrunk. When asked to describe this season of my life, I choose “surrender.” Therapy has unveiled my struggle with control and hyper-independence, rooted in past traumas. It’s exhausting trying to control everything. Cancer has taught me to let go, to trust, to surrender fully to God.

Now, I live with intention and purpose, sharing how God has carried me through the darkest times. My faith has matured, allowing me to praise Him despite the storms. I truly believe He’s not finished with me yet.

This trip, a celebration of my birthday, was filled with experiences I never thought I’d have. I’m here, alive, thriving, and profoundly thankful. 💖✨

Taneka McCoy, MS, LCMHC-S

Disclaimer:

The content shared on this blog reflects my personal journey and experiences. It is intended for informational and inspirational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are seeking guidance or support for mental health or personal issues, please consult a licensed counselor or qualified mental health professional. Your well-being is important, and professional support can provide the care and expertise you deserve.